Just need to vent

[redBoobergurl]

Hey everyone, I just need to vent a little about something.

My best friend in the entire world is the most wonderful person you will ever meet. She's kind, generous and just amazing. Sadly, she has the worst luck with guys! She's just began dating this summer after having bad luck meeting guys (she's in a pretty feminine line of work) and so she joined a couple of online dating services. She met a guy, they hung out for awhile and decided to be friends so that was ok. Well, she's been seeing this other guy she just met for about a week and he was perfect for her. He told her how beautiful she was (she's a little larger than average so it made her feel good) and how wonderful she was and he started planning for future dates and all that jazz. He was very up front with her and told her he was divorced and why he was and all that stuff as well and that he never spoke with his ex-wife. Then today, out of the blue he text messaged her saying his ex-wife wants to try counseling so he's going to give it a try. My friend was crushed. She understands that he wants to make his marriage work, but she really feels led on and that she will never find anyone ever. I just feel so helpless and really bad for her and I wish there was more I could do. I just wish it wasn't so darn hard for people to find someone in life.

Anyway, I just needed to vent a little because I feel very sad when she feels sad. Thanks for reading, I just needed to share.

 

[D'Snowth]

When you need to vent, you need to vent. Sorry to hear that about your friend, I don't know much about dating, so there's nothing I can really say to make you or her feel better but, sorry.

 

[Kimp the Shrimp]

She Will Find Someone Just Tell Her She Is A Good Prson Never Lower Her Standerds When I Was 22 I Went Out On 80-100 Dates In 6 Month Peroid Just To Meet So Many People. I Finally Meet A Girl I Dated For A Month And Then My Wife So You Never Knew She Was The Last One

 

[TogetherAgain]

Aw Beth, have some <<<<Hugs>>>> from me to you and your friend. It will get better... (I think? I don't know much about relationships. But it will get better!)

 

[Ziffel]

You're really a good caring friend to her to feel moved enough by her heartbreak to have this weighing on your heart and to share this with us. That's really nice. I'm sorry for her getting hurt like that. I've heard of other stories where a woman gets involved with a separated but not divorced man and the man says it's over, they're just not officially divorced yet. But then he decides to go back to her. But in this case he was divorced and made it sound like it was over and then went back. That's a real tough break. Encourage her that the right man will come along and love her. Like that verse we both quoted each other now, Jeremiah 29:11, also share with her Psalm 31:14,15. In those verses David was going through lots of trouble but said in prayer to God, "I trust in You, oh Lord. My times are in Your hand."

I can relate to her in that it's never been easy for me to get dates either and then in 2003 I met someone really special and got engaged in 2004 but then suffered a loss of that. But if God doesn't end up bringing us back together, He has his good reasons for doing so. And at least your best friend had this happen to her before things got further along, where the pain would be all the worse. So as hard as it is, God was looking out for her and will bless her with the right man in His good time. Meanwhile, each passing day helps the pain get a little easier and good freinds like you will add further comfort and make her feel like the special, appreciated person she is.

Okay, sorry for being so long. I know I'm not exactly Dr. Phil!

 

[redBoobergurl]

Thanks for your nice words everyone. I will do my best to share them with her. I especially thank you for the verses Ziffel. She is just as religious as I am so I know she'll appreciate them.

BTW, I love your avatar Ziffel. (Gee, I think I just muffined my own thread!)

 

[MuppetsRule]

out of the blue he text messaged her saying his ex-wife wants to try counseling so he's going to give it a try

He test messaged her? He couldn't tell her in person? I would think that if he really cared about her or if there was a future for them he could have told her in person.

Your friend sounds like a really nice person. She will find somebody someday. Good things happen to good people.

 

[Vic Romano]

((((Hugs)))
Keep being a super friend, Beth.

 

[Ziffel]

Thanks Beth. Also it's so comforting knowing that while people can let us down, God will "never leave us or forsake us" (Hebrews 13:5). And encourage her that this other guy really did find her beautiful and so plenty of other guys will too. And, since she is so kind and generous, that will attract the right guy for her who will fall in love with her as the beautiful person she is on the inside and not just physically. And James 4:8 "Draw near to God and He will draw near to you" was the main precious truth that helped comfort me recently upon learning my ex-fiance is now seeing someone.

 

[Vibs]

I guess I am venting all the time when I'm posting so that's just fine.

And by the way, vente means to wait in danish - I'm still pretty much "venting" for my only one.