What really upsets me most about this controversy is that I've been told Chik-Fil-A is actually pretty good (we don't have them in Canada) and now I'll never be able to try their chicken sandwiches without feeling horribly guilty.
I live in Canada, where we watch these sorts of pitched cultural battles unfold south of our border in the U.S. with a combination of bemusement and horror. Gay marriage has been legal here for quite sometime. We had a big (and I think healthy) debate about it, the courts ruled it was legal and then everybody sort of collectively shrugged and went back to whatever it was they were doing before all the fuss began.
In Canada gay couples are entitled to a legal (civil) marriage recognized by the state, but a church cannot be compelled to marry a gay couple if it is against its doctrine (some churches marry gay couples, some don't). It's a nice compromise that balanced the rights of gay couples against the need to protect churches and religion in general from government interference. Gay couples receive the equal treatment under the law that's enshrined in our constitution while simultaneously a church's religious freedom (also enshrined as an absolute right in our constitution) is respected.
The most vocal activists on both sides of the issue here are probably not completely happy with this arrangement, which is probably the surest sign that we've reach a decent compromise. I'm sure some people see this approach as a cop-out and unacceptable, but even our religious, extremely conservative Prime Minister who practically worships at the alter of right-wing Republican ideals has
emphatically stated that the gay marriage issue is closed here and will never be reopened.
Then again, I also live in a land of strict gun control and government-provided free healthcare, which I'm told is what some Conservative Evangelicals roughly imagine **** on earth to be like.
Seriously though, I think that religious freedom is just as important as individual rights. Often in a debate like this people forget that having a certain right does not give you permission to trample the rights of someone else. I'm personally pro-gay marriage, but I also think Christians have the right to make a legitimate
theological argument when they claim marriage as a traditional Hetrosexual institution, just as they can make theological arguments against premartial sex or abortion. At the same time, they need to remember that Western Democracies are not ruled from the pulpit (we tried variations on that for several centuries...it didn't go very well) so those arguments need to be confined to the realm of theology and religion and are moot points in a civil rights discussion.