Good thoughts JaniceFerSure.
James Kennedy, pastor from Coral Ridge Ministries, is broadcast here Sunday mornings. I thought he had a very good message on singlehood and marriage this morning. One of his points, which the show underscored with some personal testimonies later, is that it's best not to TRY to find a spouse but just develop your relationships with your friends and family and especially God. And then if and when God feels two single people are mature and ready, He will make it evident to them and bring their hearts together.
James Kennedy also gave a lot of encouragement to singles pointing out that, despite our society's pressures to think that we have to get married or that there must be something wrong with us, single people have very fulfilling lives and can make much (in some cases more, due to more time) contribution to people's lives. He pointed out that while there are many couples in the Bible, there were also singles too, including Paul and Jesus Christ Himself, both of whom obviously had meaningful lives and legacies that have lasted for 2000 years now and impacted the lives of millions.