Dealing with depression and anxiety

[fuzzygobo]

Gambling is a sickness and addiction, and your mom needs help.
Your dad should do something (after he gets his pants on) to stop it.
It doesn't take much for gambling debts to get out of control. Like any other addiction, like drugs or alcohol, it becomes the biggest thing in someone's life, at the expense of everything else, and she'll go to more extreme lengths to satisfy her gambling fix.
Casinos do have hotlines for people with gambling problems, but your mom has to take the first step to stop herself.

And you and your siblings don't owe your mom anything for being born.

 

[scooterfan360]

Gambling is a sickness and addiction, and your mom needs help.
Your dad should do something (after he gets his pants on) to stop it.
It doesn't take much for gambling debts to get out of control. Like any other addiction, like drugs or alcohol, it becomes the biggest thing in someone's life, at the expense of everything else, and she'll go to more extreme lengths to satisfy her gambling fix.
Casinos do have hotlines for people with gambling problems, but your mom has to take the first step to stop herself.

And you and your siblings don't owe your mom anything for being born.

i know right, but she has this in her mind, that we are suppose to drop whatever plans that we have to do with our money, and give the money to her to blow on a slot machine, i bring this up when talking to her, and she says, I'm going to give it back to you, and i say but that's no the point, i shouldn't have to lend money to her to waste like that, then she has the nerve to nag me to get nicer clothes, and to go to a hair dresser instead of having her to do my hair, and to go and get an manicure and pedicure like other women.and then i say, if would stop asking to barrow money from me every time i turn around, and stop asking me to treat you to lunch, every time when we are out together, and to stop nagging me to purchase stuff that i don't really want, then i could get all that you nag me to get. and the worst thing about this, is that this so called therapist is she is seeing, is encouraging this crap. and i know that my sisters are tired of her calling and asking them for money, because when then do have money they will not answer their phone, or come visit her. and i don't really want to lend her money, because she doesn't support my career path that i have chosen.

 

[fuzzygobo]

Lending her money just enables her to keep her gambling fix going.
It may be blunt, but the best thing you can do for her (for her own good) is not give her any more.

Tough love. Painful sometimes, but it works.
Her "therapist" isn't doing her any favors by encouraging her to keep gambling, engaging in wasteful, destructive behavior.

As painful as it sounds, I'd tell her, "Mom, I love you, but I can't support your habit anymore."

She can overcome her habit. Not by herself, but through prayer, real counseling, and turning to God.
Through Him all things are possible.

 

[DramaQueenMokey]

I am a college graduate...It still feels weird to say that; here I am: done a semester early and, I have already begun my graduate studies.

I've been self-harm free for 7 months now.

My parents are still battling in court and I'm still English translator/document collector/the only actual adult (mentality-wise) in the situation and it sucks. Yesterday, after I helped my mom with some documents, she left me shaking (literally) and the shaking was so bad that I couldn't focus on my reading for my one grad class. I eventually calmed down but by then, it was very late and I needed to head to bed. Luckily, I don't need to have that reading done until next week.

Also, my heart broke a little yesterday. I got a job listing from someone I respect a lot and, it was a 'dream job' for me, English-Spanish translation for some big name people I'm a fan of but, I couldn't take the job. Mainly because I just began my graduate studies and, those are the top priority in my life currently. Maybe the opportunity will present itself again but, I'll see.

Though on a much happier note, I am seeing someone new and he's really great so far. We're both pursuing higher education (he's a cop who is trying o become a detective ) and his whole thing is, he'll never keep me from my education :') Plus, we're both super geeky and, its a lot of fun to go back and forth insulting each other's Star Wars alliances (I call myself a 'Sith Princess' while he likes the Rebels) and we have fun with that, ha ha. We've been having a weekly lunch or dinner date since I've been home and that's one of my favorite things right now.

Things are tough, I'm not going to pretend that they aren't. But, it's small victories like that and, the fact that I found some cookies I can eat with no worries ^^ (I found out that the seizures I was having are health-based/vitamin deficiency caused and, I need to limit my sodium intake and my doctor basically forbade me from having peanuts/peanut butter in any form so, I now eat like I'm allergic to peanuts since that's much easier than telling everyone about my seizures and all. What I mean is, I'll go to the bakery or wherever and rather than explain my ordeal I say something along the lines of, "I have a peanut allergy" or "What are your peanut-free options?" )

Anyway, tough as things are, the little things do count and, I need to stay strong.

Sending positive vibes to anyone else who may need them right now <3

 

[dwayne1115]

I stop breathing when I sleep, and now I know this it makes it very hard for me to sleep. Which in turn is starting to depress me.

 

[Pig'sSaysAdios]

I stop breathing when I sleep, and now I know this it makes it very hard for me to sleep. Which in turn is starting to depress me.

My dad had that problem for a while. Definitely the best thing to do would be to go see a doctor, who'll probably say you need a sleep respirator.

 

[MikaelaMuppet]

I'm not happy at my mother right now. I slammed the iPad down in front of her because I want the iPad all the time and she won't let me have it. I got into an argument/fight about it which ended at me yelling at her and I told her to leave me alone. Now she is going to tell my father about it and I will most likely get punished for the situation. She also said that it's my fault that I erased my iPod Touch back in October of last year and the NOOK HD+ almost 2 weeks ago. I wish that I never erased both of those things because the only electronic devices I have now are the computer and my NOOK e-reader. I really regret doing both of those things now, but it was my choice to do so. Now, everything is my fault but my mother says that it's not true. I just don't like her at all sometimes. Yesterday, she said that she wished that I never erased my iPod Touch and my NOOK HD+. I had to erase both of those devices because I added way too many things to them and both were slow and acting up. If I didn't have so many things on them, I wouldn't have to worry about anything bad happening to them. Now I am so bothered by what just happened that it's all is what's on my mind right now. I don't like my father either. He yells, swears, and screams at me to the point where I cry a lot. I just don't know what to do. What should I do?

 

[Old Thunder]

Regarding your mother, TBH I think you're in the wrong here. If you're still living with your parents you do need to give them respect. You don't have to be online all the time; try reading a book or going outside.

Just my thoughts.

 

[MikaelaMuppet]

Regarding your mother, TBH I think you're in the wrong here. If you're still living with your parents you do need to give them respect. You don't have to be online all the time; try reading a book or going outside.

Just my thoughts.

Because of what happened, I just lost the iPad for good.

 

[Old Thunder]

Because of what happened, I just lost the iPad for good.

Well you're still online, so I guess you've got some backup anyway.