Confessing Crushes...

unclematt

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I have a question that I am going to put out to all of the girls that read it but anybody can respond.

I have this new friend Amanda. We have been friends for about 2 months now. Last Thursday her boyfriend broke up with her very unexpectidely(sorry about the spelling). I found this out on Saturday from a mutual friend at my birthday party. I didnt expect Amanda to come to the party but she did and it meant alot to me. Since Saturday I have spent every night with her (including Easter Sunday and my actual birthday) and she has opened up to me about her life, her feelings and the break-up. Since we have been getting closer I have developed these feelings for her. She is incredible but I need to be there for her as a friend. Does it make me a creep that these feelings have sprung up? I have very mixed emotions about the whole situation. Looking for help.
 

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I know the Feeling! Me and my Girlfriend broke up resently, and one of my best Friends ("Kelsea"), has been helping me though. And Im becoming atracived to "Kelsea' even though I have been her friend for years. I dose not make you scum! In act is it not said that you are best to mary your best Friend :wink: (Sory for all the bad spelling, im eating while im typing this :smile: )
 

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Its not bad at all. I feel exactly the same way about a friend that is a girl. I was friends with her a few years ago and I got to really like her more than a friend but there was a big gap in the relationship because I was quite sure she didnt feel the same way and I couldnt tell her so I got all depressed about it so had to try and keep away from her.

Then just before I left school we started talking again and I got back in contact with her after I left school through email and stuff and its been especially this year that ive been communicating with her, I got a phone and we started text messaging eachother and I got a message saying she is going somewhere with her dad for the day, did I want to come. I was happy because I really wanted to see her because it had been a while but also nervous especially at the fact that her dad would be there but I phoned her a few times and got the confidence to go and the day was great.

I got a chance to talk to her and get to know her a bit better (Her Dad wasn't around much of the time), we talked for ages and I even confessed how I felt about her before and about all the depression I had because of it and she asked if I still felt that way about her and I said yes, she didnt seem upset or anything but I'd been waiting to tell her that for so long and I told her how I woried about telling her because I didnt want to lose her as a friend. She gave me a semi-hug to say that is was ok but I don't
think she feels the same way, its pretty sad that we probably won't ever be more than friends but it would be great if we could. I don't think I've ever loved a girl or got this emotionally worked up about any
girl before. I just hope I havent lost her as a friend and I'm even nervous to ring her now because she might think im only after her as a girlfriend but I'd settle to keep her as a friend although it will probably be hard.

Its one of the most painful thing to love someone you really value as a friend more than a friend because its holding it in and wondering and hoping she feels the same way about you.

Good luck you guys!
 

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Hey, Paul. And Matt.

I have absolutly no experience in love ares, so I'll just say, good luck to both of you.

Beau
 

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Litte update on my Amanda situation. This guy Frank has been around an awful lot and been all over her so I am going to lay off. It sucks but it is life. :frown:
 

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unclematt said:
Litte update on my Amanda situation. This guy Frank has been around an awful lot and been all over her so I am going to lay off. It sucks but it is life. :frown:
Hey, what is this? I thought your crush was exclusively on Totallyspiesfan..poor lil thing'll feel cheated on :wink:
 

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TSF never responded. I had kinda given up on her as well.
 
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