When you need to rant...

[fuzzygobo]

And the thing too is I basically have two choices that are just going to continue making me feel grouchy.

Continue living in this toxic apartment with noise disruptions everywhere, or move in with my parents in North Carolina and just feel like “why am I even here?” It’s a lose-lose situation either way, and it’s why half the time these days I just feel like a combination of Oscar and Bert, even if I may not always show it.

I know it’s rough. I’m not trying to play devil’s advocate, but we all have to move out sometime. I moved out when I was 19, but I doubt many could do that today. Maybe times were different. Maybe because you were expected to move out when you finished college. The prevailing attitude was “You’re 23 and STILL living at home???!!!”
I’d hate to see you move back in with your folks. Because if you did, the older you get, the harder it will be to strike out on your own.

Meanwhile, there has to be a better place to live. There has to be an agency like Hope House that can help you find an affordable place, or someone to move in with.
If you live near a college town, a lot of houses have spare rooms they rent out to students.

 

[Any Del]

Kinda reminds of the situation that happened with my cousins from my dad's side back in Sept 2019. We were close but then my dad pretty much fabricated a story to them about me and my sister and his neice and nephew singled me out, threw labels at me, cuss me out and even went as far as to flat out MOCK me and be hypocritical on the things they told me. Got so fes up I sent them a NASTY email and that was it. Never wanted to see them ever again. I found how that they were just as narcissistic as my parents. My whole family is narcissistic. That's why my uncle (whom I never knew) cut ties with everyone. That was years before I was born and when my sister was a baby. My family labeled him as "evil" for cutting ties with them. To be blunt, my uncle is a great role model in my eyes.

It taught me that no matter who anyone is regardless if they're in your inner circle, NEVER TOLERATE CRAP FROM ANYONE! I can DO and BE BETTER than my family.

 

[LittleJerry92]

My personal opinion is you should move out when you feel ready to move out. Of course I don’t expect to live with my parents forever, what kid wouldn’t? My issue is the fact that it didn’t even feel like I had a choice in this simply because mommy and daddy wanted to get away from the cold.

I am grateful that they are always welcoming into letting me live with them for a few more years if need be, but an issue I have with the both of them is I feel like when they have their minds set to something, they don’t even bother considering thinking things over and just have their minds set to whatever they want to do. If you want my opinion, I would have been ready to move out by my early to mid 30s. I felt frustrated having to look for my own place because I didn’t even feel like I had enough time to look for a place that seemed promising. I finished college in 2017 and I feel like I could have easily had figured out an idea of where I’d want to live next by 5 years. But no. Not even a year after I finish they already want to start redecorating the house and then sell it.

TLDR: Basically I just felt frustrated that I didn’t even feel like I had a chance to figure out my future because my parents were sick of the cold and wanted to move away from it

 

[fuzzygobo]

Kinda reminds of the situation that happened with my cousins from my dad's side back in Sept 2019. We were close but then my dad pretty much fabricated a story to them about me and my sister and his neice and nephew singled me out, threw labels at me, cuss me out and even went as far as to flat out MOCK me and be hypocritical on the things they told me. Got so fes up I sent them a NASTY email and that was it. Never wanted to see them ever again. I found how that they were just as narcissistic as my parents. My whole family is narcissistic. That's why my uncle (whom I never knew) cut ties with everyone. That was years before I was born and when my sister was a baby. My family labeled him as "evil" for cutting ties with them. To be blunt, my uncle is a great role model in my eyes.

It taught me that no matter who anyone is regardless if they're in your inner circle, NEVER TOLERATE CRAP FROM ANYONE! I can DO and BE BETTER than my family.

I can understand how you feel. Cutting people loose if they do you harm, I get it. But severing ties permanently sounds pretty drastic.
I know, I went through the same crap with my dad. Maybe someday you can reconcile.
Right now putting some time and distance between you can be healthy. Maybe in a few years you might feel different. Time heals all wounds.

 

[LittleJerry92]

I’m fine with cutting ties with family members if it feels like the relationship is just not going to improve in any way whatsoever.

At the end of the day, just because someone may be a family member doesn’t mean they can’t be toxic in some way. A good friend of mine recently cut ties with his brother because of some ignorant **** he said to him over some financial issues going on in their lives (and frankly I lost respect for his brother myself).

 

[LittleJerry92]

So after that snow storm we had last night, my apartment is completely FREEZING cold!

And of course, I can’t control the temperature on my thermostat. It doesn’t help that I don’t have a heater in here either, only an air conditioner. I’m basically forced to deal with how my apartment chooses to have its temperature set to. Either freezing cold where I have to suffer or toasting hot that I can feel my arm pits sweating and I have to put the AC on.

 

[Any Del]

Dang man sorry about that.

 

[LittleJerry92]

Thanks. Honestly after seeing that stupid letter wrote by some immature neighbor of mine who had a temper tantrum over the fact that my car was slightly on the line and not completely over it, I have just had it with this place.

 

[LittleJerry92]

So I was planning on getting some more weed from my local dispensary and then I realized...... I couldn’t. I still only have my temporary driver’s license. ****.

In all honesty, today was just a day my anger got the better of me. Like after dealing with that ***hole neighbor of mine who thought it was funny to leave that stupid note on my door combined with today, I threw my phone across the wall and it left a black mark.

Guess there goes another spot I’m gonna have to fix when I move out. Like honestly it’s just frustrating checking my ******* mailbox every day to see if my real driver’s license showed up or not........ just to find nothing. **** my dmv honestly.

 

[fuzzygobo]

DMV, post office, ain’t government agencies great?