When you need to rant...

[mariolover]

Well, I have my friends’ phone numbers and Facebook messengers, so I can always message them.

My friend told me that was a good idea, so I will message all of them from time to time.

 

[Blue Frackle]

I guess on the flip side, I will be able to hang out with most of them in the fall. Except for one that is done because she's a senior. I just texted her to let her know I'm missing her and I hope she comes to visit next year. Maybe we can hang out just one last time before I say goodbye to her forever.

Maybe you can tell her about when you used to have irrational fears of being murdered for a good final chuckle.

 

[mariolover]

I will be sad for a while. It takes me a while to let things go.

Maybe that's just a trait of my autism.

But I am particularly obsessed (probably too much) with the fact that I kept trying to hang out with this one friend and she was always busy on the days I tried to plan but she promised me she would one day this year when she wasn't busy. I thought about it every day. That day won't come now.

I can check in with her maybe once a week via texting just to catch up with her and see how things are going.

But I can see her next year and we will definitely hang out then!

 

[Any Del]

Do you have a little....you-know-what with that girl @mariolover?

 

[mariolover]

Do you have a little....you-know-what with that girl @mariolover?

No. I'm talking to a different girl right now. This is not the girl who asked me out that I mentioned earlier.

I am just bummed I never got to hang out with her.

I really like her as just a friend though. She is really pretty and nice though. I'm not interesting in dating her right now.

 

[fuzzygobo]

Yes this all sucks, but others are affected too, not just you.
Here’s a reality snapshot. You might be in real tight with some college friends right now. But after graduation people scatter.
I went to a university with 20.000 kids. 30 years later, do you know how many I still keep in touch with? Two.
It will happen. People will graduate, get jobs, get married, start families, move away, join the military, that’s life. That’s the way it is.
If you stay in touch with five of them, that’s a lot.
But life will keep moving.
Even people we were close to on this board aren’t around anymore. Life happens.
Even if you don’t see them personally for a while, you can still keep in touch.

 

[mariolover]

Yes this all sucks, but others are affected too, not just you.
Here’s a reality snapshot. You might be in real tight with some college friends right now. But after graduation people scatter.
I went to a university with 20.000 kids. 30 years later, do you know how many I still keep in touch with? Two.
It will happen. People will graduate, get jobs, get married, start families, move away, join the military, that’s life. That’s the way it is.
If you stay in touch with five of them, that’s a lot.
But life will keep moving.
Even people we were close to on this board aren’t around anymore. Life happens.
Even if you don’t see them personally for a while, you can still keep in touch.

I've heard that most of my lifelong friendships will develop in college. Is that a lie?

But I've heard that most of the people you saw in high school you will never end up seeing again after you leave, except for maybe your closest ones. And that turned out to be true for me. I never see most of the people I went to high school with.

 

[fuzzygobo]

Well, it’s different for everybody. Some marry their high school sweethearts. Some friendships start at jobs. There’s no rhyme or reason to it.
Your circle of friends can change over time. It just happens. People you’re close to now may not be there next year. College is a state of change. Always has been, always will be.
And after college the same rules apply.
Times change, circumstances change, people change, life changes.

But for some friends now, maybe when it’s better to go out and can visit them.

 

[LittleJerry92]

I recently lost a friendship over some very small petty reasons which really upset me as her and I were very close and then suddenly..... bam. Out of her life. I did wish her all the best in the end but it’s something I’m still trying to get over myself.

In the end, all I can say is you’re unfortunately going to lose friends as you get older, sometimes through personal ties being cut or just going your separate ways. It hurts if you felt close to someone, certainly, but the best you can do is just be grateful you got to spend some time with them and let your wounds heal as the days go on.

 

[mariolover]

I recently lost a friendship over some very small petty reasons which really upset me as her and I were very close and then suddenly..... bam. Out of her life. I did wish her all the best in the end but it’s something I’m still trying to get over myself.

In the end, all I can say is you’re unfortunately going to lose friends as you get older, sometimes through personal ties being cut or just going your separate ways. It hurts if you felt close to someone, certainly, but the best you can do is just be grateful you got to spend some time with them and let your wounds heal as the days go on.

I try to be kind even to those unkind to me.

I almost lost one of my friends in real life. He betrayed me once by telling me “Screw drseusslover, (my YouTube channel name. He knew my channel) that f*ggot can go die in a pit!”

I was kind to him, even though he hurt me. I was deeply hurt by that, but eventually he started being nice to me again so I trust him again and now we are still friends to this day.

Another person on reddit (a stranger this time) said to me on the Christianity subreddit “I hope you get pancreatic cancer and die a slow, painful death because you’re a Christian.” He also said “Go kill yourself, Christf*g”. I decided to be kind to him, even though he was a jerk to me by saying “I wish you well, even though you hate me.”.

A lot of people would have been mean right back in that situation, but I’m not the kind of person to do that.

A YouTube user who is also a stranger once told me “Go f*cking kill yourself, you f*cking closet f*g! I hope you end up like Tony f*cking Scott!!!”

And finally, one time I was at work at a soup kitchen, and a guy at work said "Can I have a dollar?" and I said "Why?" and he said "I want to buy some blacks from Walmart!" And I was like "Huh? You want to buy some black guys at Walmart?". I fell for his trap. One of the black people at work overheard me and was like "What? Oh 73HH no! You don't ever say anything like that!" I almost got fired from my job, but I apologized to the boss and explained it was all a big mistake, and he forgave me.

I really felt foolish after falling for that guy's trap at work. That guy is seriously a jerk, and so are the 2 people above that example on Reddit and YouTube.

It was totally an accident and I didn't mean to be racist or say anything mean. I'm lucky I didn't get jumped or something like that.

The person in real life who told me to go die in a pit is not a jerk anymore. He has matured over time thankfully so we are still friends even though I almost lost him as a friend.

There are lots of good people in this world, but there are also a lot of jerks too.

Those were all very cruel comments, but I think I did a good job keeping my cool in all of those instances.