I'd like to clear something up. I'm a very positive person who believes in trying to look at the bright side and to turn adversity into a proactive challenge instead. What i absolutely don't believe in is sweeping the horrible thinks of live or our negative feelings about things under the rug. It's crucial for is to feel our feelings purely in order to process them, to learn from them and to survive. My objection is in rumination and chronic pessimism. There are several articles floating around about this topic, yet the avoid discussing rumination. If anyone feels that I didn't want them to feel their feelings on this forum, I'm sorry about that. It's intent. Eventually, things need to find a productive path. One cannot get there unless they being at the problem and the negativity. Peace.