It's hard for me to describe in words what I eventually learned from my gluing and foam mistakes, but I'll try my best...
In the old days, whenever I would construct a foam head, what I was would is pattern the head completely, then what I would do is I would slightly carve the edges of the foam where they would be glued together... I don't know what I was thinking, but somehow, I thought that would help. Then, once I was ensured that the patterns were glued together, I would turn the foam head inside out (much like you do with fabric when you finish sewing it), the results weren't spectacular, but then again, I never claimed to be a good puppet builder, plus, no one was going to see the foam head anyway as it would be fabricated later on.
More recently, however, I would actually watch footage of Don Sahlin building puppets while I was building, and instead here is what I started doing instead with better results:
First, after I had completed the mouthplates, I would glue a large scrap of foam to the top of the mouth, then as needed, I would cut away at it until I had the shape I wanted for the head (so it's almost as if I'm both attaching and patterning at the same time), then, like Don does, I started gluing the edges (without doing the additional minor carving that I did) directly together: edge to edge. This has much better results I find, and then I would do the same with the foam jaw (which I find somewhat trickier, because sometimes the foam likes to pull on the mouth plate, which can result in a sneer, which is a problem I still have). Lastly, I do some additional patterning for the back side of the skull to give the head the shape it needs, gluing in the same method: completely edge-to-edge.