Dealing With Depression/Breakups/Life

[beaker]

Well, for the first time in 6 years I havent really been on the MC forums much.
It's partly due to how busy Ive been with art freelancing, but also due to other things.

There's an ol cliche adage that when it rains in pours..oh how true is that.
So how does one truly bring themself out of depression? As it not only is effecting my work, but just general energy. I also am pretty isolated from any sort of a social life or friends(not by choice), just lack of a car thing.

Even tho it's been a few weeks, Im dealing with my first ever relationship evaporating. Yes, being dumped sucks...but especially when you think it truly is 'it', and ya havent had a gf in 26 years. Other bummers would be my red alert financial situation(given my bay area rent and bills are so high, I dont have much money to barley even cover food) Hundreds of dolalrs owed to me by people still havent come in.There is also the urgency and stress of finding a new place in a couple months. Commissions and work have mostly fallen through lately, as has a lot of things. I worry about my mom a lot whose also alone. I dont have any other family, so Im grateful to have such a rad mom.
Usually I am the becon of bouncing happy go lucky fun and positivity...but these days, I definately been feeling Eeorish.

Anyone been feeling down...or have any advice to truly combat this? Keeping busy helps and having stuff to look forward to, but still it takes energy and luck for both of these sometime. I realize just having someone who listens works well.

Thank goodness I have music from the Muppets, They Might Be Giants and B-52's to help cheer me up

 

[Boober_Gorg]

You gotta come with me to the Dead Hensons show on August 18. It's at Blakes on Telegraph in Berkeley. Trust me, it'll be what you need. Only costs $6 - cheap eh?

 

[ryhoyarbie]

You know, I think it's about time high time you take a vacation to forget about everything. I know you don't have that much money but letting yourself take a rest from all the busy stuff in your life can help calm you down, relieve stress, and let you mentally relax. Take four or five days off and relax. You don't want life eating you at every moment.

ryan

 

[Muppetsdownunder]

I'm sorry to hear you are feeling down. About 2 years ago now, it doesnt seem that long ago but l I went through a really bad time with depression.

I met a girl at school, we were just friends but not being popular I thought that was absolutely great to have someone. I then started liking her more than a friend thats when I got really depressed because I couldnt tell her, I was scared she wouldnt even like me as a friend if I told her. Then I thought it was the end, I thought if she didnt like me noone would.
It was a horrible time when even the muppets couldnt make me happy, Nothing could. Then I was prescribed some tablets by a doctor which made the problems 10 times worse. I just felt so lonely. Once I stopped taking the tablets things got better. It was a scary and horrible time when i just couldnt think of any positive things. I didnt know what was going to happen. I thought I'd be alone all my life. Even when I was with other people I still felt totally alone and different to them.

But I got over it and I'm completely fine now, although im not that social and still kinf of alone (not by choice) but I dont have a car and i find it hard to meet new people but I always try and meet new people at any opporunity I get. I now don't think negatively, I just hope I will find someone soon.

You will get over it, its not the end of the world. I thought it was the end for me but now I actually almost find it funny that I got so upset over something so stupid.

I really hope you feel better soon! I hate to think someone else is going through horrible times like this.

 

[JaniceFerSure]

Fuzzy end of the lollipop

Well,I can definately sympathize and empathize with what you have been going through,because for the past 4 years I've been tested like I've never been tested before. I'll make my story brief. My dad had lyme disease & my mom had cancer. My mom's mom,mom's sister,my mom,my dad,my dad's mom,my godmother,and godsister have passed away within the past 4 years.I took care of my dad,by myself for 10 months,after my mom passed.I had to quit work.Then my godmother's cancer returned and I helped my best friend & now roomate Sean take care of her(she passed 12/15/02).I had tattoos done in my parent's and my godmother's honor.Now my godgrandmother is slowly dying,she is 95 & Sean is moving to her house,to help her out. I haven't had a relationship with anyone in 15 years,because I've always put work first. I've lacerated my left index finger with a hedge trimmer a year ago,the dextarity is slowly returning. I don't mind being alone,but I can't stand being lonely. I'm living check to check,because I don't want to go back into retail again. I've had so many fights with depression,the only things that have been there to make me smile are: watching the sunrise and sunset,my best friend Sean,seeing my parent's spirits in my dreams & knowing they still love me and are proud of me, and most of all God & Jesus.Without the church,I don't know where I would be now spiritually. As for feeling Eeyorish,I've always been that way,even though I try now more to be like Pooh,I'll still have my Eeyore days,always.

I wish I could be there to hug you Beaker.Please know,that even though your at a roadblock at your life now; your always looked after & life will always have a way of being ok.Man is never given any problem more than he/she can handle.

 

[Super Scooter]

I have problems with depression... I'm deffenitely not one to ask how to deal with it.

 

[beaker]

I'm sorry to hear you are feeling down. About 2 years ago now, it doesnt seem that long ago but l I went through a really bad time with depression.

I met a girl at school, we were just friends but not being popular I thought that was absolutely great to have someone. I then started liking her more than a friend thats when I got really depressed because I couldnt tell her, I was scared she wouldnt even like me as a friend if I told her. Then I thought it was the end, I thought if she didnt like me noone would.
It was a horrible time when even the muppets couldnt make me happy,

man, that does sound like a bad era for ya. Then again from 1990-1995 I was Muppetless...having been so entrenched in muppetdom from birth til 1990.(then again that was a sucky period for JHC)
But man I hear ya...heck even the nerdy 'rejects' and freaks at hs didnt like me. And I definately know about the girl thing...I dont think any female friend Ive had irl over the years has ever liked me back 'in that way'(while they complain how they can never meet a sweet funny non jerk guy) its irony at its finest. but that which does not squishy us, makes us squisher...as Brad Nietzsche once said.

You know, I think it's about time high time you take a vacation to forget about everything. I know you don't have that much money but letting yourself take a rest from all the busy stuff in your life can help calm you down, relieve stress, and let you mentally relax. Take four or five days off and relax. You don't want life eating you at every moment.

ryan

To quote What About Bob? "Bob, you need a vacation from your vacation". heh
But youre right...some reflecting, zen meditation and a little time off from everything sounds in order. thanks man

You gotta come with me to the Dead Hensons show on August 18. It's at Blakes on Telegraph in Berkeley. Trust me, it'll be what you need. Only costs $6 - cheap eh?

Hey if there will be possible Muppet fan geek girls there I'm all for that.

 

[Kye]

When ever I feel sad I think about this song.
It was a tribute to henson and was orriginally written to be sung by kermit... here are the lyrics

Life is unfair, so they tell me,
Because they think I wouldn't know.
They only can see a cheap gimmick
On their children's favorite show.
They say, "Oh, that's just foam and a wire,
Attached to a green velvet sleeve,
Anyone can do that" -- well, that's true, I suppose,
But who else could make them believe?
What can I say without you there to guide me?
How else am I supposed to give?
How can I sing without you there beside me?
How else am I supposed to live?
You could never just do the expected,
I was just an idea in a bog,
But you sewed up your dream and we made quite a team,
Jim and Kermit, a boy and his frog.
It was me, Rolph, and you, but I think that he knew
There was something that you and I had.
The magic we made just kept growing,
And none of it ever was bad.
Then came Ernie and Scooter and Gonzo,
Doctor Teeth, Cookie Monster, and more.
But now all of those voices are silent,
And I want to go on... but what for?
No one can make me what you did,
No one could walk in your shoes,
Nothing can make me forget you,
But that's not a thing that I'd choose.
I can't just let it be over,
And you wouldn't want it that way,
So I'll stand up and I'll face it,
And, though not quite in your voice, I'll say:
I will go on without you there to guide me,
There's so much more I can give.
Whenever I sing, you will be there beside me,
As long as I keep you, you'll live.
We just wanted to make people happy,
I was always much more than your toy.
I will never regret and I'll never forget
What we had,
I'll miss you, Dad,
This frog and his boy.

 

[Don'tLiveonMoon]

Aw, what a sweet and sad poem.
Erin

 

[Muppetsdownunder]

I was feeling down this evening. I just feel like im going to be on my own forever sometimes. I'm feeling better now though.

Hope you are feeling better too!