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Yeah, I kind of thought Walter was present in many of us. I see I've touched a nerve...and that's good. You folks make me feel a little less lonely, seeing everyone jumping in here on such an introspective topic! Thank you.
dw...Honestly, though I've been through that stereotypical view (gay men as more cultured, etc) I've found it really doesn't pan out and that sexual orientation has little to do with one's worldview in terms of being well-read, or crude, or willing to think outside the box, or stuck in the box and-that's-the-way-we-like-it. Which is somewhat good, in that realizing that encourages a dismissal of ALL stereotypes! But yes...people are often shallow, especially younger ones (the teen-through-20s group, just from my own observation locally this decade, seem
obsessed with appearances to a level not seen since Victorian mores), and that makes it all the more difficult for those of us who aren't perfect 10s to find someone willing to take a chance on us. I really, really hope you at last run into the perfect someone -- and he's single! (I can't tell you how many times I've seen someone who made my jaw drop intellectually as well as physically and learned they were already involved...sigh.)
@the original post made by newsmanfan:
We're all lovers, dreamers, and weirdo whatnots here. We all can identitfy with Gonzo in some way as well as Walter.
Life is very odd...I like to think within the rich tableaux of life and the tapestry of memories that make up our individual narrative, things are meant to unfold when they do. I'm not religious, but that idea of fate keeps me going. Seemingly random disparate layers converging when they need to.
Yeah, I hear ya... I recently did a Tarot reading for myself, just a full spread to think about where I am in my life (and no, I don't believe any outside source "gives you" the cards -- but it IS a useful tool for introspection and symbolism-exploring in oneself) and the overall message was basically: you've got a stable situation right now financially, you're accomplishing creative things, steady work at those creative things will bring you greater satisfaction...what are you complaining about? Which I thought was pretty fair, all things considered. But dangit...even living with housemates gets lonely. Sounds like several of you know that: how to be Alone in a crowd. Not a bad place to be...but not very satisfying either.
The view of the Muppets as "kid stuff" baffles me. I'm always thinking, "Did you ever WATCH the show? it was NOT aimed at kids!" The new movie is a perfect example: so many jokes in it which little kids will NOT grasp, but those of us with a more mature worldview, or more years on the clock (and hopefully the latter includes the former!) can appreciate it more deeply. The Kermit/Piggy relationship was portrayed in a very mature fashion in that. So people somehow thinking that all Muppets are like Elmo is truly puzzling to me. Then again, I've noticed that most people take their opinions from their usually wildly misinformed peers instead of seeking answers for themselves...one of the reasons I love Newsie so much. At least he TRIES to inform the public! Frog knows we need more facts in this world and less opinion!
And robodog: not all people are scary. I'm terribly sorry you've had the kind of life which makes you want to hide away from everything, but glad you're at least engaging in conversation here! If it helps, I had a stuffie frog (creatively named, of course, Froggy) which I was inseperable from ages 5--14, though I didn't take him to school again after a classmate played with him too hard and my mother had to sew an arm back on! I currently have a little Newsie (the Pallisades figure) who occasionally goes on field trips with me shopping, to the library, etc...and the looks I get are almost always followed up by people unable to resist asking what's up with him. Whereupon I expound on my love for all things Muppety. And more often than not I get enthusiastic or at least tolerant responses. I know it's a lot harder when your peer group/world is younger, though.
So here's a serious question for you all: is it better to go with the flow, and see what comes downriver to you in terms of possible relationships, or is it better to seek them out -- not in a sense of desperation, just exploration! -- where one feels compatible partners might possibly be found? Or IS there such a place?
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