Well, I think a lot of women, at least here in the south (I was born in TN, lived a bit in MS, and moved to TX) equate babies like they equate their men ... an opportunity for "love". They played house as a kid and listened to their fairy tales and it just seemed so wonderful and magical and easy. I'm willing to bet that if it were mandatory to do that cyber-kid thing for a whole year or volunteer at day cares and such for a year, we could fix a lot of that. I'm convinced part of my family's issues with family issues is that they were raised to believe things would go a certain way and the modern era just took all those notions, crumpled them up, and threw them in the trash. I'd much rather people prove they can manage their own lives before bringing in new lives, but that's just me. I've lived (and somewhat continue to live) the parental refrain "if I knew then what I know now". Children shouldn't be subjected to that possibility.