redBoobergurl
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Hi all. I don't do this very often, but I'm really conflicted over something right now and thought I'd turn to my Muppet family who I LOVE so much for a little advice. Mind you, what I'm about to say is going to sound extremely petty of me and maybe a little whiny, so I was hesitant to even do this, but I just really want some opinions.
Ok, so I have this best friend who I've known almost my whole life. We've been friends since about 3rd grade, but got really close after high school and through college, even though we went to separate colleges, we go to the same church. Anyway, we've gotten so close that we go beyond friendship, calling each other psuedo sisters (she has 5 of her own, but I have none so that's where it came from). She was my maid of honor in my wedding, she's the first person I call when I'm having a bad day, she's just that one friend I am the most connected with. So that's our history.
Up until June, we both worked at our church but then each took different jobs because we were fed up with the way things were going there. Throughout the summer we still got together plenty often either just the two of us or with my husband and her fiance who also get along quite well. Now that it's fall we really only see each other once a week at church choir practice and at masses we sing at. Towards August things started changing. She's made friends with a huge group of people at her work and has started hanging out with them quite a bit, particularly this one girl. Now, I'm not going to say, oh my god she's made new friends that aren't me. But the problem is that she's kind of with them all the time and it seems I don't fit in her life anymore. The biggest problem is with the one friend she made. If they're not at work together or hanging out, then this friend is text messaging her constantly. I should also mention that this friend of hers is married, so you'd think she'd spend some time with her husband. The last straw was this last weekend we went on our All Girl getaway and her friend kept messaging her constantly interrupting our time together! I guess I just thought it was kind of rude.
Ok, so my issue is as follows: A. I feel like this new friend is taking my place, B. I feel like my friend is changing under the influence of her new friend, C. I don't know how to talk to her about it or if I should. I don't want to come off as some whiny brat who wants her all to myself. That's not it at all. So, it's hard to know what to do. So, that's why I'm asking for advice. Thanks for reading, hopefully I'm not sounding too selfish or something, but please tell me if I should just let it go because maybe that's what I need to do too. Thanks guys, love you all.
Ok, so I have this best friend who I've known almost my whole life. We've been friends since about 3rd grade, but got really close after high school and through college, even though we went to separate colleges, we go to the same church. Anyway, we've gotten so close that we go beyond friendship, calling each other psuedo sisters (she has 5 of her own, but I have none so that's where it came from). She was my maid of honor in my wedding, she's the first person I call when I'm having a bad day, she's just that one friend I am the most connected with. So that's our history.
Up until June, we both worked at our church but then each took different jobs because we were fed up with the way things were going there. Throughout the summer we still got together plenty often either just the two of us or with my husband and her fiance who also get along quite well. Now that it's fall we really only see each other once a week at church choir practice and at masses we sing at. Towards August things started changing. She's made friends with a huge group of people at her work and has started hanging out with them quite a bit, particularly this one girl. Now, I'm not going to say, oh my god she's made new friends that aren't me. But the problem is that she's kind of with them all the time and it seems I don't fit in her life anymore. The biggest problem is with the one friend she made. If they're not at work together or hanging out, then this friend is text messaging her constantly. I should also mention that this friend of hers is married, so you'd think she'd spend some time with her husband. The last straw was this last weekend we went on our All Girl getaway and her friend kept messaging her constantly interrupting our time together! I guess I just thought it was kind of rude.
Ok, so my issue is as follows: A. I feel like this new friend is taking my place, B. I feel like my friend is changing under the influence of her new friend, C. I don't know how to talk to her about it or if I should. I don't want to come off as some whiny brat who wants her all to myself. That's not it at all. So, it's hard to know what to do. So, that's why I'm asking for advice. Thanks for reading, hopefully I'm not sounding too selfish or something, but please tell me if I should just let it go because maybe that's what I need to do too. Thanks guys, love you all.