I hadn't really checked this little thread that I began, what seems like centuries ago, until ten minutes ago. I left to focus on other things. In most of my life, I can create a meaningful dialog with people. I always have had a knack for that. It's not about changing minds, but about mutual respect. I felt that would be the same here, but I don't see that (at least not for myself). This isn't about an individual or mindset. It's about the outlet.
Covid quarantine has taught me that social media can be the worst place to have serious discussions. It all becomes a brushfire of anguish and rage that festers and grows and gives off toxic smoke to all around it. I have found this to be the case in other social media outlets too. There is little knowledge to be gained or satisfaction to be had.
I do not believe in curating one's information, but I do believe in discarding unhelpful things. I shut out most broadcast news, I have three subscriptions to papers of record (even with my progressive viewpoint, that includes the Murdoch owned, conservative leaning WSJ) and I expose myself to different thinking people often.
As for social media, I don't curate content, but I do curate people. It's not about partisanship. It is about character. It's about integrity and level headedness. There is something to be said about apples and bunches.
Last March, I had about 800 Facebook friends and a hectic working life. As the quarentine lengthened, I realized that having some of these people on my phone every minute of every day, whether or not I checked my feed, was like inviting them into my livingroom. Social media became most of our primary form of communication. I weeded out over half of those angry people, from all political persuasions (that was the greatest surprise), and changed my criteria for accepting new people into my life.
How does this person, this experience, make my world bigger and my day brighter? I don't mean comfortable or to have my beliefs regurgitated back at me. Comfort doesn't help us grow. It often makes our life experience smaller. I mean - what value will I reap from this investment? I wake daily now to nearly three thousand people, mostly artists, and the most beautiful variety of artwork from around the world. This time, inspiration grew like wildfire. It's changed everything. The lesson is that pruning one's garden is what makes it grow. What we put out is what he get back, and then some.
I feel that, ultimately, this thread isn't helpful. That isn't an accusation of disdain for any person here. I just see nothing being accomplished except for a dozen people fighting, sometimes getting ugly at each other, and digging in their heels instead of learning from new experiences or new information provided. I was once a party to that. It's the nature of this format. I don't know if that's the same feeling you get here or not. It's an individual decision. I just hope all of you guys find a path to greater peace of mind than what this looks like - whatever that may be. It might be here. I might be wrong. This might do it for you. I'm saying this, as the thread starter, that it doesn't for me. I feel a responsibility to provide that. My experiment, as far as I see it, fizzled. It's not a terrible thing. It's how we learn. It might not be a failure to you and I can respect that.
This is likely my final post here, in this thread and at Muppet Central. I'll be mostly on Facebook. It can be a terribly toxic place, but I figured out the ways around it that work for me - that challenge me daily, brings joy and connection, and makes my world bigger. Everything has its time and season. Maybe other people get a value and a joy here that I do not. If you do, by all means follow it with passion.
Deep love and gratitude,
Jamie
Frog Bless and Happy Holidays coming up to all.